The cost of not learning new parenting skills
‘There is much more flow at home. Children seem happier, it takes half the time to have supper, get them bathed and ready for bed. Surprisingly my wife and I now have a more relaxed evening after the children have gone to bed, whereas before we both were exhausted and irritable by the daily evening routines.’
At one of my recent parent communication workshops, the parents were sharing how their new communication skills were making a marked difference in the peace and cooperation at home. Learning simple communication skills, coupled with a certain degree of awareness, led to a home environment where there was a greater sense of team work opposed to a battle field.
This led the conversation to the cost of not learning new skills. Often parents say they don’t have the time or the money to do workshops or further their skill development. It is perceived that learning new skills is more costly than the perceived benefits. And on the surface this may seem so because no-one has really tangibly documented the cost of not being skilled. We took the example of a parent (mother or father) getting home, tired after a long business day. He has to bath the children, get them to eat supper and get them to bed. This process doesn’t go quickly or as smoothly as he would like and leaves him feeling more drained and less focused.
The next day, he is slightly tired …
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| Happy New year and may this year bring you the results of consciously communicating with your children. The year ahead seems so full of possibilities that at times I feel overwhelmed by everything that either could be done or needs to be done. I sometimes still find myself slipping into old communication patterns of my upbringing which are clearly not constructive. But I am aware of this process and soon enough can re-align myself with what I really want. And the same holds for the year ahead. It IS a year of POSSIBILITIES! A year of growth, development, fun and of course, courage. Let's make this one a great year!
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Nurturing your child's Self Esteem |
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Parents and teachers need to join forces and form working partnerships. Both need to know the difference between words that demoralise and those that give courage, between the words that trigger confrontation and those that invite co-operation; between the words that make it impossible for the child to think or concentrate and the words that free the natural desire to learn.
Here is an opportunity for you to learn and understand how to help your children believe in who they are and who they can become. You will be able to help create an emotional environment that makes it safe for your children to open themselves up to what is new and unfamiliar. You will be able to help your children take responsibility and exercise self-control.
FREE TALK on this topic at Rondebosch 3rd February 2010
Johannesburg Series. A 3 day series (Sat 13th Feb, 20th Feb, 27th Feb)
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Cape Town Series. A 6 session series (starting Wed 10 Feb, Rondebosch Primary) |
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There will also be another 'Nurturing of Self Esteem' workshop series in the 2nd term 2010 at Synergy School, Noordhoek. See here for more info. |
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Emotionally Intelligent Parenting Series. |
Johannesburg Series. A 3 day series (Sun 14th Feb, 27th Feb, Mar )
Learning new parenting skills is one of the most valuable gifts you can give to your family as it decreases the level of frustration and increases the level of cooperation and strengthens family bonds. This is an immensely rewarding and exciting series that covers topics like: Setting Effective Boundaries, Learning your Child's Love Language, Alternatives to saying "No!, and much more. You can come to just one session, or come to all six! |
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| Hi Robin.
This week has been going fairly well. I found last weeks lessons very tough and emotional. I feel part of nurturing your children’s self esteem is evaluating your own childhood. I have been guilty of the same things as my parents by rote praising. I don't think they have been believing the praise. Like mother like sons. I have really concentrated on acknowledging and describing my kids little daily achievements. the results have been heart warming. I had my first opportunity on Wednesday morning. While I was trying to get ready for the day James and Robert were playing nearby and having a really wonderful time. James was being really gentle and caring with Robert and sharing his little treasures. (not the usual behaviour) I said to James that he was a really wonderful brother. I saw how well he was sharing his things and being gentle with his little brother. He looked at me and said "I know mommy" so I told him I just wanted him to know that I had noticed how sweet he was being. His little face lit up and he just said thanks and carried on. He has definitely been playing in a gentler way with Robert. There have been numerous little successes like this but this is the one that stands out.
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It's not only children who grow. Parents do too. As much as we watch to see what our children do with their lives, they are watching us to see what we do with ours. I can't tell my children to reach for the sun. All I can do is reach for it, myself. ~Joyce Maynard |
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We are experiencing more and more Parents asking for individual support in resolving certain challenges with their children. Even if it's just for a one hour session it seems to just shift what was getting stuck. Why not find out how you can be supported?
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Other schools also ask Robin to run workshops for their Parent group and if you feel this may be an option for you, please contact us. He also works with both Educational and Corporate Teams in facilitating their Team Communication skills. He is currently working with schools in both Cape Town and Johannesburg. Contact him to design a programme for you and your team!
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| Robin is the Founder of the SynEDgy Schooling Approach and the current Synergy School Principal. He is a qualified Life Coach, has degrees in languages, psychology and Pre-Primary Education. He is also a national and international conference speaker and his articles have been published both locally and nationally in diverse magazines. He has appeared on E-TV discussing the skills for developing Emotional Intelligence in children and been interviewed on numerous National Radio Stations. |
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