A parent wrote to me and asked this question:
Hi Robin, may I take this opportunity to ask you a question regarding your "choices" suggestions. My "strong willed" daughter answers to my choices within the boundary as "I don't want to". Then I gave her the option for her to create her own choice. But she still replied with "I don't want to".
The one scenario was: she needed to get to bed but because we had my adult son's girlfriend there she did not want to go bath or bed. I made the boundary clear and gave her 2 choices. I then asked her to tell me how she thinks we can make sure we get bathed and to bed or does she want to consider my 2 choices.
She still said, "no, I don't want to".............
I was stuck and did not know what to do now and just wanted to resort to my "old methods" of insisting on her listening to me and then do a count down and then discipline her."
So my reply to her was this video I have published for you below.