I have noticed a real difference this week. The change, not surprisingly, has come from a change in my attitude. Brandon needed to have blood drawn on Monday and a painful injection today. Instead of getting frustrated and telling him that I know it hurts but he has no choice, I really listened to him.

While in the car going for the blood tests he was very upset, screaming that he didn't want to go and that it would hurt. I was honest with him and said:  "Yes it would hurt but not for very long. I know you are scared and that is ok. It's not nice for you to have to have injections, I would be nervous too. I will be with you the whole time and help you through it."

While the crying continued he was not quite so hysterical and neither was I. He got over it much quicker than usual. I felt more confident in supporting him. Although there wasn't much of a change in behaviour it was a definite improvement as there was greater understanding from me.

I have realised that it is not just getting them to listen and do what I need them to do but being willing to listen to them and let them do what they need to do sometimes, even if it is not the best thing at the time for me.