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Your Parenting Enneagram insights

This is what you will find out below:

  • what values and characteristics form the underlying foundation of your parenting style
  • ways to avoid unconsciously imposing your world view on your child
  • what gets in your way of having really amazing relationships with your spouse/ partner and child
  • how to increase your own personal growth which results in you being a better parent

I have spent a long time scouring the internet for some really useful insights into the different Enneagram types and how this relates to your parenting. I have personally I have found this incredibly helpful in understanding myself, my relationships, and my parenting style.

If you haven't taken your FREE ENNNEAGRAM TEST to find out which TYPE you are, then click here to have your mind blown away.

The www.enneagraminstitute.com is a really great resource and a lot of the information below comes from that site. Obviously I am wanting to emphasise how these insights can support you in being a better parent so have just included it here for you.

I have split up this information into the following topics:

  1. In parenting
  2. In relationships
  3. In personal growth
  4. Understand more about how you influence your child's personality

 In Parenting

The following chart indicates a few of the major expectations of each type of parent toward their children, no matter what type their children may actually be. Being aware of these unconscious expectations and not allowing yourself to manipulate your children into having to measure up to them will go a long way toward improving parent-child relationships.

What Parents Expect from Their Children
Type one May demand self-control, reasonableness, regularity, and the ability to delay rewards—that their child be a Little Adult
Type two May demand generosity, thoughtfulness, helpfulness, and attention to others—that their child be a Little Helper
Type three May demand being outstanding at tasks, fulfilling family hopes, physical perfection, and popularity—that their child be a Little Star
Type four May demand sensitivity, artistic creativity, emotional depth, and understanding—that their child be a Little Therapist
Type five May demand independence, studiousness, intellectual gifts, and curiosity—that their child be a Little Genius
Type six May demand dependability, obedience, perseverance, and trustworthiness—that their child be a Little Trouper
Type seven May demand vitality, good humor, resilience, and spontaneity—that their child be a Little Entertainer
Type eight May demand toughness, self-sufficiency, courage, and willpower—that their child be a Little Entrepreneur
Type nine May demand quietness, lack of demands, gentleness, and non-needinesss—that their child be a Little Angel

One of the best attitudes for parents to have toward their children is

Published in Being a parent

This will help you understand your parenting style better.

A few weeks ago (17th May, you can see it here)I posted a blog on how you can do the DISC personality profile test (worth $250) for free. And below are some interpretations on how those scores relate to your parenting style and why some of that 'FLOW' in the home may not be working as well as you want.

I am a high 'S' and 'C' type whcih means I love stability, routine and attention to detail. No wonder I am good at setting boundaries and ensuring they are kept. My profile is also great at doing it the correct way the first time (great for getting cooperation and discipline).

But I'm a low 'I' which means I am more introverted and 'cool'. The children find me less approachable, and difficult to read. It now makes sense why I spend so much time on learning communication skills because I was never a natural. I had to learn all the tricks so I could get the results I need.

Here are my last 2 days of work on finding insights and material so you can interpet your own scores form the perspective of parenting and better understand why you parent the style you do, and how you can avoid some of the mistakes you didn't know the causes of.

Published in Being a parent
  •  Have you even been stuck and not known what to do next?
  • Do you sometimes feel you know that what you are doing now is not appropriate but not sure what to do instead?
  • You want to parent better than you currently are but not sure how that looks?

 You are only stuck because you are not doing something different. There is no other reason. You are also only stuck because you just do not know the solution. So the quesiton to ask is whether you find yourself complaining that you don't have the solution, or do you spend your time and energy in doing something different so as to see if you get a different result.

In this interview with Christpoher Nevill (an expert in the field of personal development and accessing your better potential), I explore with him this stumbling block for so many parents. Doing the same thing over and over again but expecting a different result.

Length: 08:28 minutes

I have done many interviews with him and they will be published on this blog as we release them. To see what we have released, you can find many of them here

The quickest and most powerful way to change a child's behaviour is to see what it is that you are doing that is creating it. Now I say it is the quickest but it is not the most comfortable.

When our children misbehave, it is easier to see our children as the problem, and that something is going on within them that must now change. But children behave within a bigger context, and that context is often created by ourselves as the parents.

An empowered parent looks to see what they are doing that is contributing to the behaviour that they don't like, and as such, can now find different ways to influence the change in that behaviour.

In this interview with Christpoher Nevill (an expert in the field of personal development and accessing your better potential), I explore with him the courage it takes to see your children as mirrors of what is going on for you as well.

length: 9:42 minutes

 I have done many interviews with him and you can find many of them here

This is the most powerful formula I know to bring flow to your family home

Awareness + Skills + Action = Possibilty (or flow)

  • But what is this thing called awarness?
  • What role do skills play?
  • And what action must you take to bring it all together?

In this interview with Christpoher Nevill (an expert in the field of personal development and accessing your better potential), I explore with him this critical role of awareness in parenting and how my parenting skills build upon his work.

length: 14:22

I have done many interviews with him and you can find many of them here

  •  I don't want to use the negatvie techniques my parents used on me.
  • I want to find other ways to parent than my parents did on me

We spend more formal time to learn to drive a car than to communicate effectively with your chlid.

Length: 3:34 minutes

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This interview is part of longer one on SAFM radio. The longer one can be heard here

Published in Being a parent
  • Do you sometimes shout or threaten your children and then feel guilty afterwards?
  • Do you feel you don't spend enough time with your chidlren and you can see the negative impact on them?
  • You know you can do more for them, but then there's time, money and just getting through each day.

 The parents who really value the work that I do have a strong drive to better themselves and the lives of their children. And with this drive, also comes a sense of guilt if they don't feel they are giving their children the best.

In this interview with Christpoher Nevill (an expert in the field of personal development and accessing your better potential), I explore with him this element of guilt and the role it plays in parenting.

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