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I am at a cross roads and stuck...

Written by Kim Cassidy (a teacher who worked with me at Synergy Schooling)

And today I find myself at a crossroads - yes a self imposed one, not created by anyone else other than me.  I came to a decision that I HAD to do something about a certain situation that has not been working for me and I thought that I must do something about it TODAY!

  •  Have you even been stuck and not known what to do next?
  • Do you sometimes feel you know that what you are doing now is not appropriate but not sure what to do instead?
  • You want to parent better than you currently are but not sure how that looks?

 You are only stuck because you are not doing something different. There is no other reason. You are also only stuck because you just do not know the solution. So the quesiton to ask is whether you find yourself complaining that you don't have the solution, or do you spend your time and energy in doing something different so as to see if you get a different result.

In this interview with Christpoher Nevill (an expert in the field of personal development and accessing your better potential), I explore with him this stumbling block for so many parents. Doing the same thing over and over again but expecting a different result.

Length: 08:28 minutes

I have done many interviews with him and they will be published on this blog as we release them. To see what we have released, you can find many of them here

Michelle needed to shower, but had dirty hands which she, being only three and a half years old, wanted to first wash in the basin. The shower was already running and I had wanted her to get in and wash her hands there. (Silly little things one fights about , hey?)

Instead of doing what I usually do, which is to pick her up, kicking and screaming and plonking her in the shower, (and having a distraught child for hours afterwards), I said  " Michelle, I'm cross that I am not being listened to. At the same time washing hands in the basin would waste precious water. So, I'm turning off the shower and going away for five minutes so I can cool down. I'll come and help you shower when I'm feeling calmer.'

Which I did, without confrontation or resentment. Just do something different - very powerful!

Published in Guidance

Do SOMETHING DIFFERENT . That's resonated with my soul, and there have been lots of little chances to implement it.
Adrian, now 7, doesn't listen. Ever. This morning I called him for breakfast, and he ignored me. I called again. He ignored again. Usually I would call another 3 times before my husband would come and shout at Adrian for not listening and I would shout at my husband for shouting at Adrian – I know this is silly, but it is how it has been for us.

Do something different I thought.

So I walked over to where Adrian was, and looked him in the eye and said in a firm voice  " I have called you twice and you haven't come. I need you to come and eat your breakfast now, and to come when I first call in the future."

He didn't fuss or scream like he usually does, but came and ate his breakfast, and my husband didn't need to get cross, and its a much better dynamic. I know as I do it more and more Adrian will come earlier and earlier. There’s light at the end of my tunnel.

Published in Guidance