The three things you need to know to avoid damaging your child's self esteem.

Here are the THREE SKILLS you need to know to avoid damaging your child's self esteem and how you can get them for FREE (it's a free download).

If you use any of these techniques, you are most likely damaging your child's self esteem:

1. Accusing and Blaming: Your toys are still on the floor even though I have told
   you three times to pack away! The trouble with you is that you never listen!
2. Calling them names: You are so messy and so uncooperative.
3. Threatening them: If you do not clean this up by the time I count to 3 you will be in trouble!
4. Commanding: I want you to clean up your room this minute!
5. Guilt: How would you like it if we gave all your toys to those children. Maybe that would teach you a lesson.
6. Warnings: Watch it! You’re going to stand on your toys!
7. Martyrdom phrases: I worked hard for the money to buy these toys.
8. Comparing to another: Why can’t you be more like your sister? She always packs her toys away neatly.
9. Sarcastic remarks: Do you think this is a clean room? Not even a pig would want to live here?
10. Prophecy: if you don’t learn to pack away your things neatly, then no one will want to be your friend later on.
11. Bribery: If you pack away your toys quickly, then you can have that ice-cream after supper.

It is not your fault if you use any of the above techniques, and you are not alone. We have never been taught this. For most parents, we bring up our children with no clear intelligent insights nor skills. Our parents never taught us how to parent.

So here the three skills you need to know to avoid making some really hurtful mistakes:

1. How to get your child to instantly cooperate with you while avoiding the threats, guilt and manipulation.
2. How to inspire them to overcome their challenges and struggles instead of them just giving up and becoming a failure.
3. How to avoid the dangers of over-praising where you set them up for failure and now they can't cope with the real world.

Have you ever asked yourself these questions?

• have you ever wished you knew what you may be doing wrong and wished that someone had taught you how to do it right?
• have you ever lain in bed wondering if what you said to your child that afternoon was going to impact their confidence for the future?
• have you ever yelled at your child feeling guilty afterwards for how this impacted them?
• Have you ever wanted to scream in frustration at not knowing what to do to get your child to cooperate?
• Have you ever felt that sense of hopelessness in knowing that there must be another way to discipline but you just don't know it at the moment?

Here is your FREE solution on how to solve this while avoiding the guilt, the threats and the long term damage you may be causing without knowing it.

Here's the Biggest Mistake Parents Make and how to solve it.

Most parents think that getting cooperation is about making sure your child knows you are the authority. But actually truly successful and intelligent cooperation comes from understanding that there is a power struggle as a RESULT of you being the authority.

So learning some simple and incredibly clever skills in how to decrease the power struggle will exponentially increase your child's resistance to you being the authority, and increase the cooperation in your home. You can quickly learn how to unlock that power struggle and thereby get your child to cooperate quickly and simply, without resentment.

Take this intelligent skill as an example.
You are wanting your child to pack away their toys after they have played with them. This is how we usually get them to do so:

But that technique uses a THREAT and makes the child FEAR the parent. Therefore this technique is based in negative communication.

So try this instead:

Set the boundary, (ie it's time to pack away now), and then give empowering choices within that boundary.

By setting the boundary of 'packing away' the child gets that this is what is needed to be done. By giving choices within the boundary, your child feels a degree of autonomy because you are not just telling them what to do, but giving them a sense of empowerment in choosing where to start. Nearly all children therefore spend time choosing, opposed to trying to negotiate the actual boundary.

But this is where I say we use intelligent skills.

Some children still do not want to be just given two of YOUR choices. That still evokes the power struggle. So here is what you do to resolve that.
Set the boundary, and give choices within the boundary, with at least one of the choices being one they can create.

When a child comes up with their OWN choices, they will be willing to follow through on that. You win, and so do they!
That is intelligent parenting.

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This is why I wrote the book.

I want to support you in being the best parent you can be. And I want to make it as easy and effortless as possible. It took me years to figure out what works, and then many more years to figure out how to make this work for other parents.

This is all for FREE. Just download it now and see the instant results.

Remember.

• Avoid the long term damage on your child's self esteem because you didn't know these skills.
• Find ways to get what you want without threats and guilt and crushing that spontaneous spirit in your child.
• Be the intelligent and empowered parent you really want to be because you KNOW what to do.