What would you do if your two children kept fighting over whose turn it was on the ipad? How do you decide whose turn it is, and what is fair for both children?

Here's a story about a mother who was worried about her 11 year old son playing too many games on her ipad. So should she forbid him to ever play it again, or maybe try this idea I shared with her...

Avoid these words below as they hamper your child's language development.

Of course you want the best for your child! And I know you don't want to see a look like this picture above on your child's face.

But your choice of words may be doing more harm than good. So I am going to share with you how you can change that with the following simple skil.

On average a child hears the word "No" or "Don't" over 400 times a day. I've been here at this playpark for an hour and lost count after the 200th time.
"Don't jump into the pool"
"Don't run on the grass"
"Stop whining while I put sunscreen on your face"
But the following example was my favourite one: "Do you think complaining that your friend is not here is going to help the situation?"

• You don't want to sound strict and overbearing so what do you do to get their cooperation?
• You find yourself shouting, even though you really don't want to be a shouter?
• You are overwhelmed by all the skills - so this is what Kim did - take one at a time.

In this video clip taken from the online session on the Alternatives to Saying No!, Kim shares her breakthrough in getting her children to cooperate without using threat, manipulation and shouting.