Parents are getting angry when children are just not taking responsibility for making things work.  It's a great test of patience when you apply a new skill you have learned, only to find your child throws it back in your face, leaving you feeling depleted and angry. But don't panic! This is what conscious and intelligent parenting is all about. We begin to expect the unexpected, and learn how to handle all the curve balls so we can continue getting that FLOW back into the family.  This lesson is a great one in how to ABSORB their comments, and then REDIRECT them back to what you are needing.

A child that keeps nagging and whining pushes nearly every parent's buttons.  And it seems that regardless of the issue your child is whining about, what seems to bug the most is the WAY in which they bring it to your attention. When they whine like that it kind of comes from a victim-entitlement attitude. So what we are wanting is to support our children in speaking 'CLEARLY' to us, so we can actually 'HEAR' what they are saying, and maybe out of that we can support them. Just telling your child NOT to whine is like putting fuel on a fire... it's counter productive and leaves them feeling like you don't care.  This lesson gives you the exact wording you can say that will get your child to stop whining and move you forward in resolving what is needed.

  What would you do if your two children kept fighting over whose turn it was on the ipad? How do you decide whose turn it is, and what is fair for both children?

Here's a story about a mother who was worried about her 11 year old son playing too many games on her ipad. So should she forbid him to ever play it again, or maybe try this idea I shared with her...

Avoid these words below as they hamper your child's language development.Of course you want the best for your child! And I know you don't want to see a look like this picture above on your child's face. But your choice of words may be doing more harm than good. So I am going to share with you how you can change that with the following simple skil.

  On average a child hears the word "No" or "Don't" over 400 times a day. I've been here at this playpark for an hour and lost count after the 200th time. "Don't jump into the pool""Don't run on the grass""Stop whining while I put sunscreen on your face"But the following example was my favourite one: "Do you think complaining that your friend is not here is going to help the situation?"

You don't want to sound strict and overbearing so what do you do to get their cooperation? You find yourself shouting, even though you really don't want to be a shouter? You are overwhelmed by all the skills - so this is what Kim did - take one at a time. In this video clip taken from the online session on the Alternatives to Saying No!, Kim shares her breakthrough in getting her children to cooperate without using threat, manipulation and shouting.