Getting children to sleep in their own beds, and to fall asleep on their own is one of the most frequent topics that comes up between parents. 

And although each family has their own theory about this, there are general things you can do to support the implementation of YOUR choice.

The most strategic and intelligent way to resolve this is to find ways to give your child what they are needing, but on your terms, and according to your timeline. So a win-win scenario.

This lesson looks at examples of how you can implement some of these ideas.

Are you a shouter? 88% of parents find themselves shouting at their children and nearly all of them feel guilty afterwards.

When some people get angry they turn this anger inward and go quiet (and the anger burns inside). Other people vent this anger outward, and often this comes out as yelling and shouting.

And although this may be your default experience, you can change this with the skills I cover in this lesson.

Increase your awareness of what triggers you, learn how to express your anger intelligently and appropriately so your children hear you instead of fear you, and then find ways to practice saying this.

Just by knowing WHAT to do instead of yelling will help in over 40% of the yelling situations you find yourself in.

This lesson comes from my latest online course and covers my favourite skill and the one I use each and every day without any risk of over doing it.

1. Describe what you see or hear without judging it as good or bad.
2. Share what your favourite part is.

In any situation you will always have one 'part' that you prefer to another. Therefore by using this skill you will never be lying, or be inauthentic. And you don't even have to know what you are praising.

Describing your favourite part is the skill most used by parents as there is no risk of overpraising or 'fake' praising.

The teenage years can be incredibly confusing for both the child, and for us as parents. 

Sometime our teenage children do things that totally boggle our minds, leave us wondering how they can be so 'stupid' or 'unconscious'. Why do they take such big risks... do they know that they can go to jail for life if they did that again?

The parent in this lesson asked me the appropriate way to speak to his teen son who had started missing school classes and didn't show any care that he was now in trouble.

The idea behind this lesson is how to get children to think and process their actions without us risking them shutting down the conversation with "Just leave me alone... you don't understand'.

By coming from a 'space of inquiry' and asking more questions than giving advice, we create a space for our teenagers to think through their actions, and out of this, take greater responsibility.