Rene has asked for a pay-rise on two previous occasions. She was now angry ,frustrated, and impatient. And then she realised that her boss was a high "C" in the disc profile and she was approaching him with her high "D" profile. So she figured out what to do and got her pay rise.

Watch the video to see how she did it.

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• You don't want to sound strict and overbearing so what do you do to get their cooperation?
• You find yourself shouting, even though you really don't want to be a shouter?
• You are overwhelmed by all the skills - so this is what Kim did - take one at a time.

In this video clip taken from the online session on the Alternatives to Saying No!, Kim shares her breakthrough in getting her children to cooperate without using threat, manipulation and shouting.

• Your child needs to sleep but the siblings keep them awake
• You want to put the baby to sleep but you keep being disturbed.
• While you are with the the one sibling, the other also wants you to spend time with them.

In this video clip taken from the online session on Setting Effective Boundaries, Amanda shares how she decided to take on ensuring her youngster got the sleep that she needed. And it made a HUGE difference to her in time and energy.

Diligence is the third criteria needed for setting effective boundaries.Detail is the first, and Delivery is the second. Without these three criteria all being met, your boundary will not last.

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• Ever been in a car and your children start to whine, cry and want to go back home?
• Your child agrees to not taking along the toy, but then in the car they change their mind and throw a tantrum.
• Wish you could change a crying child into a laughing one?

This video clip is taking from the online session on Acknowledging Emotions. Amanda shares how she used the skill of fantasy and changed the whole mood of the car.  In her words, she says, "It was really that easy."

This skill is the one most parents laugh at when I first teach them it, but it is the most commonly used one that brings the most success.

This is the question we received: My daughter is very clingy when I drop her off at school. She doesn't want me to leave her and when I do, often cries and begs me not to go. I end up sitting in the car crying myself. This has been going on for a long time now and nothing seems to be changing.

When her dad drops her off she doesn't play up. Am I doing something wrong here?

Robin answers in the following video clip:

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• every wondered what a difference you may be making for your child?
• have you ever seen how something so small can have such a large impact somewhere else?
• what would you do if you were this boy.... would you make a difference?

This story has been around the block many times and seems to be a huge driver for teachers. Often teachers wonder what impact they are having, and at times find it difficult to spend so much time on one child when our whole education system is in crisis.

Sometimes we can't predict what the outcomes of our actions are going to be, so we just take it a step at a time.

• You would do practically anything for your children, right?
• Your love for them literally has no boundaries?
• You wish to give your child everything they need?

Although this is one parent's amazing story, I reckon you would do the same as well.

Although this seems like an extra-ordinary story, I still feel that this happens every day in many ways, through out the world.

This is a tribute to you as a parent, where ever you are, and what ever you do for your children.

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• Have we let our youth down?
• Are our parenting styles creating incompetent youths?
• Is there hope for you youths in a world that is fast deteriorating?

This clever video clip takes a look at some of these questions and shows how our values may still be ok

A teacher gets a wake up call when she has pre-judged a child to be naughty.

Teachers need to be more open to seeing the world from a child's perspective. Schooling is not just about reading and writting but also about friendships, care, love, and happiness.

• How do you know if you are overprotecting your children?
• How much risk is a good thing?
• Can risking something turn into a good thing?

 A great quote says, "many a one has succeeded only because he has failed after repeated efforts. If he had never met defeat, he would never have known any great victory.'

Every time we try to protect our children from possible failure or rejection, we simultaneously deny them the possibility of succeeding, of persevering, and of accomplishing their dreams.

We nearly always regret what we don't do, and are grateful for the learning from what we do.