I had the pleasure last Sunday of taking Betty (8yrs) and Jane (5yrs) out shopping for Mother’s day gifts. Needless to say, both girls wanted to buy their Mums favourite chocolates so this took us into the sweets domain!
I wondered, how I was going to deal with this one – buy chocs for their Mums and not give in to their pleas for sweets too. A bit of forward planning helped and some skills from the course.
As we entered Pick ‘n Pay, I gently reminded the girls that we were there to buy chocs for the Mums. We then entered the sweets aisle and my heart pounded! I guided them into selecting the best chocs for their Mums and kept them focussed on this intention. Then the requests came.
So I reminded them again of the purpose of the mission but, that we could have a good look at all the chocolates and sweets and pretend to eat them all. So we went on a sweet adventure. Didn’t last all that long as their fantasies seemed to abate after a while and then they were keen to see the toy section next.
Once again I readily agreed but, reminded them of the purpose of the shopping venture. When we got to the toy section, there were two cheap bottles of bubbles so I said to each child that they may have one bottle each and that we would then have a good look at all the other toys. Happy that they had at least achieved one small toy, they were quite content to look at all the others without even asking for another toy.
They both enjoyed the toy fantasy and were soon ready to head off and finish Mother’s Day shopping without even a prompt from me. Clearly their fantasies in the toy section had also been fulfilled. Maybe I did not win altogether by buying two toys (R8,95 each) but, it was a lot better than any previous visits to toy sections where I may have spent at least R50 or R60 on one child only.
That day I got away with R17,90 for the two girls and I might add that the bubbles kept them busy for quite a while in the garden when we got home. After these two “dangerous” areas were behind me, the next store revealed expensive jewellery etc. A new challenge developed.
Now I was not going to buy the girls anything so after the previous store practice runs I engaged in fantasy altogether. Even letting the girls try on various pearl necklaces and telling them how wonderful they looked. They didn’t even ask me to buy anything and we emerged from this expensive store with a coffee mug and bath fizzer for each Mum. A better run. In fact a total victory!