Niki and her friend Ammie were making a cake, but both wanted to be first at pouring the milk in the bowl. Niki: you're always first Ammie: no you're always first, I want to be first Mom, using the skills of describing the problem. Hey guys, I see two children who both want to pour milk in and there is only one bowl. How can we find a way to make this work? Ammie: I've got a brilliant idea! At my house you can be first and at you're house, I can be first, ok? Niki: Ok. Even though it’s not quite the answer that I would have wanted, it was still creative and seemed to work for them. No fighting.